What Turns Women On? A Reddit Thread Went Wild

I wasn’t looking for it. Honestly. I was just scrolling through Reddit when I stumbled across a question that seemed pretty innocent at first:
“Do women have kinks too? Like foot fetishes and stuff?”
Harmless curiosity, right?

Well. The replies? Wild. Funny. Disturbing. Fascinating. And above all — brutally honest.

Because let’s face it: most guys grow up thinking women are these sweet, gentle beings who only want soft kisses, missionary, and dim lights. But what if I told you that a huge number of women are actually way more into kink than most of us are prepared to admit?

Let’s dive into what I found — no filters, no judgment, just real talk.

Submissive? Dominant? Depends on the vibe

From what Reddit revealed, the majority of women lean toward the submissive side. We’re talking hair-pulling, light choking, spanking, handcuffs, blindfolds — the whole package. But here’s the twist: it’s not about pain or humiliation. It’s about intensity, trust, and that feeling of giving up control to someone you’re into.

That said, dominatrix types are alive and well too. A few comments straight up described women who enjoy being in charge — tying their partners up, taking control of every move, and even inflicting pain (consensually, of course) on both men and women. One Redditor put it perfectly: “She just liked causing pain. Didn’t care about the gender.” That’s not dominance — that’s pure power play.

The kinks women actually have (and rarely talk about)

Let’s cut to the chase. These came up again and again in the thread — and most will surprise you.

• Hands. Not just in a “he’s got big hands” way. Women obsess over hands the same way guys obsess over legs or lips. Trim your nails, clean under them, and suddenly you’re 10x hotter.
• Feet — theirs. A few women admitted they love getting their toes sucked or feet kissed. It doesn’t turn them on mentally — it turns them on physically.
• Breeding kink. The fantasy of being filled — often raw, sometimes with the idea of making a baby, even if that’s not the actual goal.
• Piss play. Yep, more common than you’d think. Not for everyone, but it’s not as rare as you’d expect.
• Rimming. As in, yes, that. Both ways. And apparently, when done right, it’s a conversion experience.
• Edging, bondage, breathplay, sensory deprivation. What used to be “niche” in porn is increasingly just… regular weekend stuff for many couples.

Not everyone feels safe sharing their fantasies under their real name — and honestly, they shouldn’t have to. That’s where a good VPN comes in.

Whether you’re scrolling NSFW threads on Reddit, exploring kink forums, or just value your privacy, a VPN helps you stay anonymous, encrypted, and judgment-free.

The fantasies go deeper than you think

Some of the most intense comments weren’t even about the acts — they were about fantasies. One guy shared that his ex loved the idea of him finishing on her and then licking it off. Another told a story about his girlfriend wanting to see him have sex with a bisexual guy while she watched.

Another woman confessed she wanted a threesome with her partner and another woman — but admitted she’d likely break the girl’s neck from jealousy immediately after. And while that comment was probably a joke (hopefully), the intensity was real.

But not every experiment went well. One guy shared that his girlfriend secretly organized a threesome behind his back and sprung it on him while drunk. That kind of “surprise” is never sexy — it’s straight-up disrespectful. Kinks require consent and communication. Always.

Alt people = kinky people?

One of my favorite comments came from a self-proclaimed metalhead. He said:

“Alt people are anything but vanilla.”

And he’s spot on. Alternative subcultures — goth, metal, punk, queer, BDSM, cosplay — are often way more open about their sexuality. Many of them don’t operate with the same filters or shame mainstream culture pushes onto people. They’ve made peace with the idea that sex isn’t one-size-fits-all, and honestly, that kind of freedom shows.

You know those sex-themed hotels? Special rooms, equipment, roleplay setups? They’re not a fantasy — they’re a monthly routine for some couples. And from what Reddit shows, “normal sex” is often just the starting point.

What science has to say about fetishes

One user shared a theory about foot fetishes being caused by “a wiring issue in the brain” — and it turns out there’s sometruth to that.

There’s a region in your brain called the somatosensory cortex, which has a kind of body map. Interestingly, the areas for feet and genitals are right next to each other — and some researchers think this may explain why foot fetishes are so common.

But let’s be clear:
Foot fetishes are not “just for straight men” or lesbians. They show up across every gender and orientation. Sexual preferences are influenced by biology, sure — but also by culture, experiences, curiosity, and sometimes sheer randomness.

Sexuality isn’t binary. It’s a mosaic. And women are just as much a part of that spectrum as anyone else.

So… why does any of this actually matter?

Because for way too long, people (especially women) have been expected to fit into tidy little boxes when it comes to sex. Be sweet, be soft, don’t ask for too much, and definitely don’t bring up anything “weird.”

But what this Reddit thread proved — beyond a shadow of a doubt — is that women have fantasies. Some soft and romantic, aggressive and filthy. Some deeply emotional. Others purely physical. And all of them valid, as long as they’re consensual and safe.

If you’re in a relationship and you never create space for your partner to talk openly about what turns them on, you’re missing out. Not just on better sex, but on actual trust.

Creating space for honest kinks — without freaking out

Here’s the thing: when someone opens up about a kink or fantasy, your reaction matters more than you think. Laugh, mock, or shame them — and they’ll probably never bring it up again. Not with you, not with anyone.

But if you stay calm, curious, and open-minded? You unlock a whole new layer of intimacy.

Try asking:

• “That’s interesting — what part of that turns you on the most?”
• “How long have you thought about that?”
• “Is this a fantasy, or something you’d actually want to try someday?”

Even if you’re not into it, just listening without judgment creates trust. And that’s a kink in itself, honestly. The emotional kind.

A few words for the guys (and gals) reading this

If you’re a guy reading this thinking, “Okay, but how do I even start this conversation?” — start small. Ask your partner about the weirdest dream they ever had. Or what’s something they’d do if no one judged them for it. Or just mention this article and see where it leads. Blame it on Reddit — I won’t mind.

And if you’re a woman reading this? You’re not weird. You’re not “too much.” You’re not broken. Your fantasies don’t make you less of a partner — they make you human.

Final thoughts: curiosity > shame

Reddit is messy. Sometimes toxic. Often hilarious. But threads like this remind us that under the memes and madness, people are just trying to figure themselves out. And when it comes to sexuality — especially women’s sexuality — we’re only just beginning to scratch the surface.

So let’s talk about it more. Let’s create space for honest conversations. Let’s normalize desire in all its weird, wonderful forms.

And if your partner ever asks you to bring a blindfold and a safe word into the bedroom?

Don’t panic. Ask where to buy the rope — and make sure your nails are clean.

🧠 TL;DR takeaways:

• Most women do have kinks — some more intense than others
• Submissive desires are common, but dominance isn’t rare either
• Fetishes range from hands, feet, and sensory play to breathplay and role reversal
• Fantasies aren’t always about doing the thing — sometimes, just sharing the idea is the turn-on
• Shame kills desire — curiosity builds connection

💬 Your turn.
Ever discovered something unexpected about your partner’s fantasies? Or your own? Share your story (anonymously or not) — and let’s keep this conversation going.

Petr

I'm Petr, and the online world has been my playground for over 25 years. I build websites, run my own businesses, test new tools, explore what works (and what doesn’t), and share tips that save people time, money, and stress. On this site, you'll find no-nonsense articles, honest insights, and a dash of humor or irony. When I’m not behind the keyboard, I’m out chasing bike trails or discovering new golf courses. The rest of the time, you’ll find me on adventures with my wife and our two sons.

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